The stories you have heard about that woman are not true.
How many times have you looked at someone else and said to yourself, “She must have it all together. She’s 2 sizes smaller than me, her car is so clean, her kids’ clothes aren’t stained, she even packed a picnic lunch for her kids!”
Tell me you didn’t look at that picture at the top and imagine that her life is wonderful – her house is clean, her kitchen is beautiful, she knows what’s for dinner, she wants and worries for nothing. You did, didn’t you? Her face is beautiful and her smile paints a picture of peace and calm and confidence.
I know I am guilty of this way of thinking. The lady at church who lost 20 lbs – she’s got it figured out. The friend who signed three kids (three kids!!) up for softball/baseball – she is amazing because I tried having one kid in baseball for one season and it about did me in. And she has all three of hers doing it? She is Supermom for sure. The couple with that big, beautiful house – they must not struggle to keep it all together.
The problem in thinking this way is that it plants seeds of inadequacy deep down in our hearts. At first this might not seem to be a problem but these seeds grow into large plants with twisted root systems and nasty vines and before you know it your heart is all clogged and you can no longer hear God’s voice calling you His beloved. You become separated from Him. And lost. And lonely.
We live in a time when we project our best out into the online world. Your best family photos, your best dinner recipe, your prettiest Christmas decorations. And it is so easy to scroll through Pinterest or Facebook and see everyone else’s best this and amazing that and be impressed with their amazing skills.
Yes, many of those pictures and posts are fun to look at it. But remember, every time you look at them and think that the other person has it more together than you just because of the beautiful picture she posted, the seeds of ‘she’s got it more together than me so she must be better than me’ are being sown.
And those seeds are a lie. She is not better than you because of the clothes she wears. She is not better than me because her car is cleaner than mine. She is not better than you because her house is bigger than yours. She is not better and she is not more loved by God than you are. Period. End of story! God loves you best just exactly how you are right now.
Next time you see a post or a picture that makes you think the other person has it more together than you or that deflates your sense of how well you are doing with life, I urge you to stop. Take a deep breathe and remind yourself of who you are in God’s eyes. Say it out loud if you want to: “I am a child of God and He loves me best!” That other stuff doesn’t really matter. Who is your Daddy? Who made you? Who loves you more than anyone or anything? God. God who made heaven and earth loves you just as you are, just as your house and car and husband and kids are. He loves you. Anything else is a lie. Don’t believe the lie.